There is so much going on in politics I cannot believe it. Oh a lot of the hoopla seems to have quieted but really there is a lot we need to be watching.
Supreme Court Recount is going on. There has been extra drama from that arena with votes left unattended and unaccounted for, extra bags or mismarked bags. It makes me wonder if there is some mischief going on to ensure the outcome. You can go to the GAB’s site and see how the recount is coming. There is a county by county breakdown with some interesting info on the home page or if you go into the recount page you can see the HUGE spreadsheet that is used to track the numbers for the recount. http://gab.wi.gov/
Recalls – go out and look at all the signatures. There has been some hinky things there. Apparently on the democratic recalls, dead people signed. Go check out the signatures and see if you catch anything odd. There’s a section and you have to click on each individual group… http://gab.wi.gov/
On a national level I just want to say – WHAT THE FUCK???? I’m outraged that Paul Ryan is my representative. I’ve written to him numerous times on multiple topics and get these idiotic responses. It is very repetitive and impersonal. The bill they just passed is HORRENDOUS. It isn’t up to the government to decide what a woman does with her body but they are once more trying to penalize and prevent women from having a choice.
Every time I hear Paul Ryan’s name on the news, I think what the hell has the idiot done now. It is embarrassing. I’ll be doing everything in my power to get him voted out next. His budget bill was a slap at everyone but the rich. The Republican party used to stand for something but now I think they’ve all been bought. They don’t stand for anything except greed – in my opinion…
Dr Phil discussed teen pregnancy on his show. No I want to rephrase that. He said he was going to discuss teen pregnancy on his show. Instead he badgered a 16 year old girl who was pregnant. He told her she was a failure. Now he didn’t use those words but that is essentially what he said.
I’ve heard all the statistics about teen pregnancies. I’ve heard all the boo hooing about how these girls are ruining their lives. (Beware a rant coming… ) Here is the thing. I got pregnant at 17. I got married, had three daughters all before I was 23. I finished high school, got a degree from a tech school and even went on to college. Yes we lived in poverty. Yes we made mistakes. My daughters are now 29, 26 (almost) and 24. They are amazing adults who are well rounded and incredible. The statistics they spout are true I’m sure but here are a few facts that need to be faced.
We teach abstinence. This does not work. It hasn’t worked since the beginning of time. We don’t educate our sons and daughters about how to have safe sex. We tell them – no don’t do it. Well I’m sorry but you get some guy you think you love touching you and hugging you and rational thoughts disappear – at any age. So we need to arm our children better with information.
The step-father on this show objected to this 16 year old being put on birth control pills. He told the mother that she might as well rent the girl a hotel room. Well okay – rent her the damn hotel room but make sure when she goes to that hotel room she has birth control and condoms. Because then she won’t get pregnant.
Also if this young woman is making adult decisions to have sex – and that is an adult decision – then she needs to be held accountable for the consequences of those decisions. So does the father. First we pamper our children. At 16 they know what is right and wrong and if they don’t you have failed as a parent. They should be buying their own clothes, working, and making their own decisions. Parents should be offering advice and assistance but not making choices for them. We need to stop coddling these kids. You tell your kid “You got pregnant okay here is what I’m willing to do” and outline it for them. Then tell them “you have to do the rest. YOU are a parent now and responsible for the sole care of the child. Therefore you better step up to the plate and do what needs to be done. This means no partying, going without the things you want because your baby needs diapers, clothes, food etc.” If your kid is 16 and has a baby don’t baby sit unless they are in school or at work. If they want to go out, they can take that baby with. If it isn’t an appropriate place for the baby then they don’t go.
Second (and here is another rant) Where are the fathers? Why are we holding the young women to one standard and the young men to another? Were they not irresponsible and put their dick in someone unsheathed? If they did or it broke or birth control failed. Guess what. They don’t get to party either. They have a child to support. Get a job. Go to school and get a job. You have diapers to buy and baby food… and when they outgrow the diapers there are a thousand other things to buy. This doesn’t even cover being there for the child. Every child needs and deserves the love of BOTH parents. You wanted to play like men play so now live up to the consequences and be a MAN… (hate that phrase except in this case). You wanted to play and obviously did. So now you pay. Step up to the plate and be a dad. Not just a father – anyone can donate sperm. It takes a strong and powerful man (not physically) to set aside his own needs and desires to do what is right for his child.
Dr Phil was all about how this girl should give her baby up for adoption. She was not equipped to be a parent. Well no shit. But it is our job as the adults involved to get her the tools she needs to be equipped. It is her body and it is her child. Some old white guy (yup that means you too Dr Phil) doesn’t get to say what happens to her body or her child. Stop badgering and shaming the girl and offer her tools to help her be the best parent possible.