I watch the View and the Talk. Often I fast forward through the parts I am not interested in. This last week both shows covered the topic of fidelity. They talked about the movie The Dilemma which has a man trying to decide whether to tell his best friend that he’d seen his wife cheating. There was quite the discussion on both shows about it. Several of the hosts said no they wouldn’t tell.
First why would you lie? If you saw the spouse of a friend with someone else then why would you lie and cover it up. Obviously if they are having lunch or walking with someone other than their spouse you aren’t going to run and tell tales. However you can ask questions. Saying to your friend – oh I just saw your spouse / mate (whatever) at lunch. They were with someone I didn’t recognize etc. You might hear that oh that is a college friend or whatever.
Obviously if you see the significant other locked in an intimate embrace that is completely different. One would hope if they are cheating they would be discreet about it but who knows maybe that is part of the thrill.
I have no problem with people having multiple partners so long as everyone is on the same page. If you have promised to be faithful – you be faithful. You give your word that you are going to be monogamous then you be monogamous. If you want to play the field then you tell all of your partners that you are playing the field.
The next question that came up was would you cover for a girlfriend who was cheating. Some of the hosts said no and some said yes. To all my girlfriends – if you know me you know the answer to this. As much as I love my friends the answer for me is hell no. If you are in a committed relationship and you are stepping out you are WRONG. Tell your partner that you want to play the field and be honest with him before you start doing that. Don’t expect me to lie for you when you are in the wrong. I’ll tell you to your face you are wrong.
This may be a moral dilemma for some but for me it seems pretty straight forward.