I love that my daughters have gone off to live their lives. They are doing exactly what I raised them to do – follow their own path. This is the one drawback – they are far from me and it is harder to offer care and comfort when they are in need. I do what I can and hope they know I’m there for them. It is the one aspect of having strong adult daughters that is difficult – they have followed their path far from home and I can’t be there in an instant – except in spirit all the time.
This weekend my plan was to run errands and work on organizing the paperwork in the office. It was going to be a quiet weekend spent inside as much as possible out of the frigid weather. This is not going to happen.
Instead I’ve run some errands but now Ken is packing the van for me to go to Indiana. Vicki has an appointment she wants me to go to on Monday. In looking at the weather forecast today will be a better driving day than tomorrow.
This brings me to what would you do for someone you loved – family or friend – when they are in need. My daughter – always concerned about me with my – has offered that I not come down but I’ve rebuffed her each time. Why? I’m handicapped and it is difficult for me to get around. I have concerns about getting into her apartment and if something goes wrong while I’m driving being able to get around. All valid concerns but at the same time – my daughter needs me.
Because she needs me, I’m going the extra mile to get to her and spend time with her. Hopefully I won’t encounter any of the difficulties that concern me. If I do – I’ll deal as I have to. Mostly, I just want to get to my daughter so I can provide the support she needs. Worries and concerns don’t really matter because she is more important than the fear that things might be tough.
It is more important that she have the peace of mind that me being there will bring than the concerns I have over a winter drive possibly being difficult. I know she and I will care for each other once I’m down there.