Boys Need to Grow Up
Beware there is a feminist rant to follow so if you don’t want to deal with it – don’t read this.
In Texas there is an 11 year old girl who was gang raped multiple times by boys ages 14 and up to adults. This occurred in a small town. Now I grew up in a smallish town. My experience is that everyone knows everyone else. You can’t do ANYTHING in a small town without someone knowing you did it. You cannot tell me that some of these boys involved (or allegedly) didn’t know that this was an 11 year old.
So this girl was raped. It went unreported by her but got out because the boys (I’m commenting on their maturity level not their legal age) involved had to brag and record the horrendous things they did to this little girl.
Newspapers quoted people in the town saying that the girl asked for the rapes to happen because she was sneaking around and dressing provocatively. Really – really – we want to even go there? She is 11!!!!!! I’ve read comments that it is her parent’s fault for not keeping better control of her.
Here is my question. What the fuck? Okay so after the outrage and fury has died down a bit (and only a bit), here are more questions. This little girl didn’t ask to be sexually used by multiple males. Even if she stood in the town square and said come fuck me, she is 11.
Where are the parent’s of these boys to teach them that you don’t do this? What the hell were the boys thinking? I warn you I may have to explode if someone comes out with the boys will be boys bull shit. It is time we stopped allowing boys to be boys and taught them to act with respect and consideration for all people – EVERYONE – and most especially when it comes to the females in the world.
Grow up. If you cannot control your sexual urges then do society a favor and lock yourself away. Everyone has sexual urges. It is part of our nature. The thing is most of us manage to control them so that we don’t cause damage to others. If you cannot control them – then lock yourself away so that you don’t do harm.
It isn’t that little girl’s fault that these males raped her. It isn’t her parent’s fault if she snuck out. It is the males who took advantage of a girl who was unprotected. Those males are at fault for not having better control of their sexual urges and need for power over someone. They all deserve to go to jail for a very long time.
To the people who are blaming the victim, I only have one thing to say to you. Shame on you!!!
Fix Wisconsin (and maybe the US too) part 2
As I’ve said in the past, I watch Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant. For some reason these shows fascinate me. I watch as these girls take on the tough role of parenting. I was 17 when I got pregnant. I was very lucky in that I had a loving family who were strong enough to make me stand on my own and a man in my life who stuck with me.
I watch these girls and I think – toughen the F&*! up. Okay I know that they are in a difficult situation. It is hard to be a parent. It is hard to be in charge of someone else when you haven’t been in charge of yourself really.
I watch as these girls put up with behavior from boys which is unacceptable at any time but is even more unacceptable when they are soon to be fathers.
When did we stop giving our kids responsibility? When did we move from work to get what you want to gimme gimme gimme because I’m entitled?
Some of the girls are really stepping up. They appear to be amazing moms. They seem to be getting their lives together, going to school, getting a job and being stressed out just like the rest of the working parents in the world. I applaud those girls. They grew up and faced their responsibilities.
Other girls – I just wonder where their brains are? One girl on Teen Mom 2 informed her ex boyfriend (who she is living in his parents house with him but in a separate bedroom) that she was seeing someone by posting it on Facebook. Come on – really? Are you that stupid? The adult thing would have been to go to the parents who have treated her like a daughter and said. Listen – your son broke up with me and I’m starting to date. I am interested in someone else because I’m trying to move forward. I won’t bring him around the house but I would like to date him without being dishonest. That would have been the adult thing to do… not post the damn thing on Facebook.
Another girl has taken back a boy who was exceedingly disrespectful to her and their daughter in a text (called his kid a mistake and worse). Yet she lets him not only back into her life but back into her heart. Really? Where is your self-respect? Earn it buddy – you want to be a dad now then PROVE you are worthy of being a dad.
Teen pregnancy is a huge issue and one our society tries to brush aside. If we really don’t want to have these teenagers pregnant then we need to get our heads out of our asses and accept that teenagers have sex. Most of them have sex early – 14, 15 or so… Instead of saying be good and don’t do this, we should be saying – we know you are thinking about it and it is a natural part of growing up but here are things you need to be aware of – then talk to them openly about sex, disease, pregnancy, and contraceptives.
We expect these kids to grow up and be parents – well then we have to give them the tools to do that or better yet let’s give them the tools so they don’t have to be in the first place… an ounce of prevention… etc