It’s Official

I’ve published my first book!  This morning I spent four hours finishing up the prep for submissions to Smashwords.  It was complicated, frustrating, and exciting.  Secret Past by Eileen Troemel is out there for sale on their site!  https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/426548
I’m only three months later than I planned but it is finally out there and available.  Please go look and buy if you feel inclined.  Vicki was the first one to buy a copy. 
You would think publication would be the end of the road for a book. I have to market the book through social media and however else I can.  Also this is an electronic version and the next step is to see how much it will cost to do a paper version.  Once that comes out, I’ll have to do more marketing. 
For right now though, I’m going to bask in getting my first book published and the momentary sense of accomplishment!  

Boys Need to Grow Up

Beware there is a feminist rant to follow so if you don’t want to deal with it – don’t read this.

In Texas there is an 11 year old girl who was gang raped multiple times by boys ages 14 and up to adults.  This occurred in a small town.  Now I grew up in a smallish town.  My experience is that everyone knows everyone else.  You can’t do ANYTHING in a small town without someone knowing you did it.  You cannot tell me that some of these boys involved (or allegedly) didn’t know that this was an 11 year old. 

So this girl was raped.  It went unreported by her but got out because the boys (I’m commenting on their maturity level not their legal age) involved had to brag and record the horrendous things they did to this little girl. 

Newspapers quoted people in the town saying that the girl asked for the rapes to happen because she was sneaking around and dressing provocatively.  Really – really – we want to even go there?  She is 11!!!!!!  I’ve read comments that it is her parent’s fault for not keeping better control of her. 

Here is my question.  What the fuck?  Okay so after the outrage and fury has died down a bit (and only a bit), here are more questions.  This little girl didn’t ask to be sexually used by multiple males.  Even if she stood in the town square and said come fuck me, she is 11. 

Where are the parent’s of these boys to teach them that you don’t do this?  What the hell were the boys thinking?  I warn you I may have to explode if someone comes out with the boys will be boys bull shit.  It is time we stopped allowing boys to be boys and taught them to act with respect and consideration for all people – EVERYONE – and most especially when it comes to the females in the world. 

Grow up.  If you cannot control your sexual urges then do society a favor and lock yourself away.  Everyone has sexual urges.  It is part of our nature.  The thing is most of us manage to control them so that we don’t cause damage to others.  If you cannot control them – then lock yourself away so that you don’t do harm.

It isn’t that little girl’s fault that these males raped her.  It isn’t her parent’s fault if she snuck out.  It is the males who took advantage of a girl who was unprotected.  Those males are at fault for not having better control of their sexual urges and need for power over someone.  They all deserve to go to jail for a very long time. 

To the people who are blaming the victim, I only have one thing to say to you.  Shame on you!!! 

Fix Wisconsin (and maybe the US too) part 2

On a state level we have to have a balanced budget.  We are not (as a state) allowed to have a deficit.  We need to pay the bills and care for our people.  We need to not punish one group or another.  We need to not be contentious about the hard times we have right now.  It is time to pull together and work hard to make things work.
On a federal level we don’t have to have a balanced budget.  That is the first change I would make.  Just as the individual cannot spend more than they make, our government needs to not spend more than it makes.
Here are some things to consider if the above doesn’t work to make the budget work.  Let’s look at the taxes that haven’t been raised in say the last five years.  If it hasn’t been raised then it is time to raise them.  I know NO ONE likes to pay more in taxes, however, we aren’t going to have this luxury.
Here’s the thing – taking money away from the poor – not going to fix the problem.  Why not you say?  Well because they are poor and don’t have any money.  Therefore, we can’t get more income from them.  It doesn’t save money to stop paying for preventative care and birth control.  It costs more money in the long run.  Plus the poor have it hard enough.  Let’s not make their lot in life worse.
We need to look at luxury items.  Yes I know the corporations and the rich people are cringing.  Here is the thing – if you have extra, then you need to give back.  Oh don’t worry I don’t think you should give till you are poor – I just think you have the ability to pay more so you should.
We need to encourage employment here.  I don’t know if we are necessarily going to be a manufacturing country anymore but we need to figure out how to keep our people employed.
We need to have a national healthcare plan so that everyone has equal access to care.  This means we need to rein in the insurance and pharmaceutical companies.  They make HUGE profits.  This is at the cost of the individuals who have to pay for all this crap. 
Education needs a revamp.  Teachers who excel at their jobs need to be compensated appropriately.  Those who aren’t good teachers need to be washed out.  Our schools need to step away from you are in grade X and will learn this.  They need to accommodate the students’ level of knowledge.  If a five year old is reading at a twelve year old level – they should be taught at that level.  We need to get our kids an education.  Studies show that more education means less likelihood for a need to rely on aid of any kind.
The society in US is a prude.  There is nothing wrong with sex or the naked body.  Like everything else we need to educate our populace (starting at a young age) that sex is normal and natural.  Virginity isn’t a prize to be clung to like some Victorian spinster.  It is a state of being.  You either have had or haven’t had sex.  Therefore we need to teach our kids how to have save and protected sex.  There are too many dangers in unprotected sex.  Pregnancy is the least of the worries.  There are all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases that will do everything from make you uncomfortable to kill you.  That needs to stop.  Oral sex is still sex and kids need to know that.  We need to teach our kids to respect their bodies and themselves. 
This leads to a woman’s right to control her own body.  Every woman should have the right to say what she wants to happen to her body.  No one – NO ONE – gets to say whether it is the right time for her to have a baby or not.  If she is pregnant and makes the difficult and heart wrenching decision to terminate that pregnancy, that is her choice.  No one – and in particular – no man gets to say she shouldn’t do that.  No I’m not pro-abortion – I’m pro-CHOICE.  That means that I think all the options should be available to women without recriminations for choosing one over another.
We have one planet to live on.  We need to respect our planet and figure out a way to live in harmony with all the creatures here and with the environment.  If we destroy our planet than where are we going to live?  Cut government subsidies to the oil companies unless they are developing other types of energy.  It is clearly obvious that nuclear energy is NOT the way to go.  The question then becomes what is the way to go?
How are we to accomplish all of these changes and adjustments?  Well here is the first steps I can think of:
1.      Meet with respect and an open mind.
2.      Discuss options and ideas
3.      Formulate a plan of action
4.      Execute that action plan
5.      Evaluate that plan on a regular basis
6.      Revise the plan as is needed
7.      Repeat…
There you go in three pages I’ve fixed the government and our society.  I know that people will read this and think – this woman is NUTS.  That’s okay because I probably am.  See I expect my elected representatives to actually do their job and represent ME.  I expect them to listen and hear all sides of an argument before they make a decision. 
Maybe I’m just idealistic in my belief that the founding fathers (there should have been mothers involved too) had it right with government for the people by the people.  I think that if we all pull together and get down to brass tacks we can make our country a better place for everyone to live, work and play. 
Obviously we won’t cure all the ills in one big meeting but let’s at least be open and have the discussions needed to bring our economy and lives back into a balanced place.
Now if you have managed to get to the end of this and still are reading – good for you – let me know what you think.  I’d love to hear others ideas about how to fix these difficult problems.

Teen Pregnancy

As I’ve said in the past, I watch Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant.  For some reason these shows fascinate me.  I watch as these girls take on the tough role of parenting.  I was 17 when I got pregnant.  I was very lucky in that I had a loving family who were strong enough to make me stand on my own and a man in my life who stuck with me.

I watch these girls and I think – toughen the F&*! up.  Okay I know that they are in a difficult situation.  It is hard to be a parent.  It is hard to be in charge of someone else when you haven’t been in charge of yourself really. 

I watch as these girls put up with behavior from boys which is unacceptable at any time but is even more unacceptable when they are soon to be fathers. 

When did we stop giving our kids responsibility?  When did we move from work to get what you want to gimme gimme gimme because I’m entitled? 

Some of the girls are really stepping up.  They appear to be amazing moms.  They seem to be getting their lives together, going to school, getting a job and being stressed out just like the rest of the working parents in the world.  I applaud those girls.  They grew up and faced their responsibilities. 

Other girls – I just wonder where their brains are?  One girl on Teen Mom 2 informed her ex boyfriend (who she is living in his parents house with him but in a separate bedroom) that she was seeing someone by posting it on Facebook.  Come on – really?  Are you that stupid?  The adult thing would have been to go to the parents who have treated her like a daughter and said.  Listen – your son broke up with me and I’m starting to date.  I am interested in someone else because I’m trying to move forward.  I won’t bring him around the house but I would like to date him without being dishonest.  That would have been the adult thing to do… not post the damn thing on Facebook. 

Another girl has taken back a boy who was exceedingly disrespectful to her and their daughter in a text (called his kid a mistake and worse).  Yet she lets him not only back into her life but back into her heart.  Really?  Where is your self-respect?  Earn it buddy – you want to be a dad now then PROVE you are worthy of being a dad.

Teen pregnancy is a huge issue and one our society tries to brush aside.  If we really don’t want to have these teenagers pregnant then we need to get our heads out of our asses and accept that teenagers have sex.  Most of them have sex early – 14, 15 or so… Instead of saying be good and don’t do this, we should be saying – we know you are thinking about it and it is a natural part of growing up but here are things you need to be aware of – then talk to them openly about sex, disease, pregnancy, and contraceptives. 

We expect these kids to grow up and be parents – well then we have to give them the tools to do that  or better yet let’s give them the tools so they don’t have to be in the first place… an ounce of prevention… etc

Viagra but not allergy meds

This weekend Ken and I were out running errands.  One of them was to go to the pharmacy to pick up allergy meds and ibuprofen.  I have a plan that is supposed to cover these types of items.  Ken got up to the counter to pay with my card for my flex plan and it didn’t cover them.  He came to the car grumbling about it. 
I went home and looked on the website.  Sure enough – over the counter drugs are no longer covered.  One thing I found covered that I thought was interesting though was Viagra and condoms.  They can cover stuff for men to have sex but they can’t cover stuff to deal with my allergies, headaches and arthritis pain. 
It seems a bit strange to me that men’s sexual enhancement items can be covered but items that help me breath can’t be.  How is this logical?  So apparently the flex plan is encouraging men to have lots of sex (albeit protected sex) but isn’t willing to allow others to breath and get rid of pain.   
Apparently the flex plan thinks sex is much more important than over the counter drugs.  I don’t happen to agree…