Rape is non-consensual sex. This means if a woman says no or is incapable of choosing (i.e. is too drunk or high) to participate. It does not matter what the victim was wearing, what the victim’s sexual history is, or if weapons are involved.
I just read a story which moved me to tears and angered me on an issue I’m sure those who know me are starting to roll their eyes at already. Abortion is one choice a pregnant woman currently has. There are three choices. Abortion, adoption, and parenting. All of these options have pros and cons. All of these options are incredibly difficult.
The story I just read talked about what happened to a woman who didn’t have a choice. Not because she wanted to get rid of her fetus but because her fetus – which was supposed to grow into their much wanted and love child – was severely damaged.
This woman received the worst news possible when she visited her doctor – there was something terribly wrong with their son. Two doctors confirmed the diagnosis but because they were associated with a Catholic hospital they couldn’t fix it – terminate the pregnancy.
This woman had to go to a Planned Parenthood to get her abortion in Texas right after they passed a law giving very restrictive rules about what needs to happen when someone seeks an abortion. Her story is here – grab some tissue and read what she had to endure:
Here is part of her last paragraph:
But what good is the view of someone who has never had to make your terrible choice? What good is a law that adds only pain and difficulty to perhaps the most painful and difficult decision a woman can make? Shouldn’t women have a right to protect themselves from strangers’ opinions on their most personal matters? Shouldn’t we have the right not to know?
I want EVERY politician to answer these questions.
I’m very worried that the politicians in office now are going to ruin our economy and society. I’ve spent the morning contacting every one I could with the message below.
Here is a web site you can use to find out who represents you:
I wrote the following that I sent to both my senators and representatives. I also sent pieces of it to the President and Vice President. I have no idea if this will do any good. However, I feel like I should speak out. I’ll at least have voiced my opinion.
I urge anyone who feels the same way to do the same. If you want to copy what I have below – feel free. If you have additional ideas – add them in and post them here. Maybe if we all start talking one on one with them – flooding them with our beliefs then they will start to listen and act appropriately.
Here is what I wrote:
I just read an article that expresses how I believe. It isn’t about a party it is about a belief system. It is about helping those who are unable to help themselves. It is about empowering as many people as possible. It is about good education. It is about everyone – EVERYONE – having equal rights.
I don’t understand how people can look at the bullshit put out by the current Republicans in Wisconsin and think oh hey – this is good for all of Wisconsin. It baffles me how people think turning down money from the federal government that will create jobs, bring in tourism, and take us forward is bad for Wisconsin.
How can people think that taking nearly a billion dollars from education is going to improve the educational system? How is collective bargaining going to balance the budget? How is removing senior care going to help our society? How is defunding Planned Parenthood going to improve our standard of living?
None of these things are going to work or be good for Wisconsin. We will become one of the WORST states to live in instead of one of the best. We currently have good schools here. Do they need help? YES… where are the innovative ideas? Well they are sitting on the sidelines because the conservatives don’t like change – unless they propose them.
How does providing free birth control cause abortions? Oh yeah – it doesn’t. It does in fact prevent unwanted pregnancies, which in turn puts a stop to abortions. This, however, is not really the goal of taking away Planned Parenthood. It is a matter of trying to keep women in their place by keeping them pregnant and poor.
In a great number of cases, men – or should I say sperm donors – do not stick around for the rearing of the the child. They in fact are missing. Instead of blaming single mothers for everything wrong in our society, perhaps we should be looking at the men in our society. Why do we accept dead beat dads? Why do we allow the fathers to walk away from their children? Please don’t give me that bullshit about men are meant to spread their seed and it being a genetic imperative. We are allegedly evolved, intelligent humans. There are things that are supposed to set us apart from the animals like our intelligence.
Here is a tip to the Pro-Lifers – you want women to stop having abortions. This is your goal. Then make it so there is NO stigma to giving a child up for adoption. Then make it so a woman is not penalized in her work and her PAY because she has to take time to have these babies. Make sure there is free, safe, and good birth control out there. Educate EVERYONE about how to prevent pregnancy without expecting them to not have sex. Really that doesn’t work. Make the fathers step up and be responsible for their offspring. Ultimately give the woman back the control of her own body. In most cases women will choose what is best for them.
What sparked this rant? Well here is the link to the article that started it all. I’m a liberal. From the looks of former liberals it seems I’m in good company…
Recently I heard that 89% of Americans believe there should be abortion available to women. I also have heard that 75% (or something like that) of Americans believe Gays should have the right to be married. If these statistics are actually true, why are these things either being called into question or not allowed?
If the majority of Americans are for these being legal and available, why aren’t they? Do we allow the noisy minority to rule our lives? We are a democracy right? If we are, then shouldn’t the majority rule?
It saddens me that an entire group of our population cannot participate in marriage. So long as the two are from the same species (i.e. man and man, man and woman, woman and woman) they should have the same rights and privileges.
As for the abortion issue, I know the arguments for and against it. To me it is a matter of choice. When a woman is pregnant and cannot continue with the pregnancy, she has three choices. None of these choices is easy or made lightly. All of these options should be available to her so she can follow through safely.
Yet our society seems to listen to the noisy minority and try to stop both of these from happening. The minority certainly have the right to protest and voice their opinions but if the majority truly does feel like they are wrong – then it is time for the majority to get off their bums and do something about it.
If you believe in these things, write to your legislators – both on the state and federal level. Let them know your opinion on keeping abortion available and allowing gays the same rights as the rest of the population. Speak up, stand up, and be counted to help those who don’t have the same rights and to protect the rights of women.
With all the posts on politics I’ve offended some people. Some of these people were long standing friends. I’m not sure whether they will continue to be my friend after this bout of political sharing. In every day life, I’m pretty middle of the road. I’ll vote for the candidate and how he or she represents themselves. I don’t consider myself either Democrat or Republican.
One of the friends who disagrees with my point of view told me to explore the different beliefs of the parties and present a more balanced view. My first thought was – it isn’t supposed to be a balanced view – this is my blog about MY opinions. However, I like to keep an open mind and I like to listen to a lot of different perspectives. So I thought I’d start at the heart of the beliefs.
Here are the core beliefs of the Republican party (http://www.gop.com/index.php/issues/what_we_believe/)
I watched John Stewart last night and he talked about Pete King from NY who is calling for McCarthy like hearings within the Muslim communities. This is appalling. McCarthyism was one of the worst things in our recent history.
Saying that one group is responsible for the ills of our nation is ridiculous. It makes them scape goats when in reality it isn’t the Muslims but the extremists in all religions and view points.
I’ve heard recently about laws being passed to make it legal to kill doctors who perform abortions. I’ve heard the rhetoric from whichever wing (can never keep the extremists straight) where they are condemning abortion but then also turn around and condemn single mothers.
Here is my thought on that issue – NO ONE has any right to say what I do with my body and whether I choose to be married or not.
We need to get out of people’s lives and let them live them. If they aren’t breaking laws or hurting others then leave them alone.
If King wants to study the radicalization of anything great – do it in general terms across society – don’t pick on one group. It didn’t work in WWII with the Japanese. It didn’t work in the 50s with Communism. It won’t work now with the Muslims.
It seems some of the political machines forget that we are supposed to be a religiously free country.
Catching up on my DVR last night, I watched parts of the View from this week. At one point, the women discussed the nun who was excommunicated because she allowed doctors to perform an abortion on a pregnant woman. The woman would have died if the abortion hadn’t been performed. They brought up all sorts of other details like this woman also had four other children at home and other things. The women were outraged that this nun was excommunicated – as am I. She did what was right. It isn’t like the fetus at 11 weeks could survive without the mother. So they couldn’t do a C section to deliver it. If the woman had died trying to complete the pregnancy, the baby would have died.
I understand the Catholic beliefs that life begins at conception. I understand why they don’t think abortion is good. Really does anyone? However, in this particular circumstance abortion may have stopped a pregnancy but it also saved a life. No one mentioned the hell the mother must be going through. First she isn’t able to carry a child she must have wanted (I’m assuming here) to term. So she is grieving the loss while at the same time being grateful to be alive (talk about conflict). Then the Catholic church (some bishop – a man) turns around and punishes the nun who helped to save her life. In essence, the Catholic church is saying it was wrong to save this woman’s life.
I could rant for paragraphs about how I feel about this. However, I want to go back to the fact that the View discussed this topic one day. Apparently overnight they received numerous emails, most of which started with I don’t watch your program… well if you aren’t watching what do you care? There was an email from a gentleman who called the women of the View not good Catholics because they criticized the church.
If the church can’t stand up to a few women criticizing it then perhaps it shouldn’t be in business. On top of which isn’t it the duty of the membership to keep the organization honest and fair? The women of the View asked why this nun (a woman) got excommunicated when the priests (men) who abused all the children didn’t? This is a severe double standard. I understand that the nun “broke” the rules in the eyes of the church. Didn’t those men? Why implement a harsh punishment against her when you didn’t against the men?
I’m not Catholic. I think Catholicism is out of date and out of touch with the reality of our current society. I think the Catholic church is a bunch of old white guys who are trying to desperately hold on to power they don’t have any right to. They are the worst case of good old boys society. This is why I’m not Catholic – well and a whole bunch of other reasons. However, when they apply their own rules and standards so unequally I question why anyone remains in this religion. The women from the View didn’t hurt the image of the Catholic church. The Catholic church hurt its own image.